Presents For Her

A loving relationship is great, but you have to remember to keep the excitement alive in the bedroom. Today there are all kinds of ideas on how to spice up your love life and keep It interesting. Communicating with your true intention is the best.

Showing your true intention lets your lady know she is special to you and show’s how much you love her. So what makes a fun gift during the Holiday seasons? This can be a tough and confusing question to answer. You’re hoping she will love whatever you decide to get her. To show how important she is to you and get her a great gift I suggest you make a night out of it.

First do some investigating to see what she has been reading about and shopping for. Go ahead and ask simple questions to find out what has been sparking her latest curiosity. Ask in a way that is just normal every day conversation to make sure she is surprised with your gift and amazed at your listening skills. A fun night out is a great start. Look for a romantic restaurant she has been dying to try. Women love to be treated to a nice, elegant dinner. Always make sure you have a chocolate dessert, it sets the mood for the rest of the evening.

When you finally get home, have the bedroom set up for the romantic evening with candles, champagne and some great music. Present her with her gifts and let the mood lead the way. She will be relaxed, loving and ready for a romantic evening. Happy Holidays!

Presentation Strategy – Not Tactics – 3 Common Mistakes And How To Avoid Them!

Recently, we’ve received a lot of positive feedback about our monthly newsletter and how it focuses on providing presenters with strategic advice on how to produce winning presentations, rather than on vague, unclear tactics. That’s because very few people ever learn the basics of presentations, and executives with the potential to produce brilliant presentations commit severe strategic errors. Three of the most common mistakes are:

  1. Misconceptions about the focus (it’s not the presenter – but your audience’s need to know),
  2. Giving too much information to the audience, instead of structuring it to guide decision-making
  3. Violating the presenter’s own gut feelings about what to present.

The most frequent reason executives “resist” calls for public speaking, is lack of self-confidence in the ability to deliver a message powerfully. It’s usually NOT because the person isn’t able to speak clearly in public; most executives are fine conversationalists, and a great presentation is no more than a focused-conversation. Public Speaking jitters arise because speakers try to conform to other’s standard of what material should be presented and how to present it – and they aren’t comfortable with those decisions.

This results in a lack of authenticity and self-doubts which erodes one’s comfort level. Worse, when a speaker starts focusing on his/her own internal cues of discomfort in front of a group, this creates a domino effect and downward spiral of self-doubts, leading to making strategic errors, such as focusing on the presentation slides rather than relating to the audience with a persuasive story.

Strong Emotional Reaction? Stay Present and Tap For Personal Growth

This was an interesting week. Difficult in one way, yet powerful and amazing in another.

I received an email that brought me to tears. I was triggered by someone who has triggered me many times before. During those other times I have felt righteously angry, defensive, and put the blame on her. I have composed hundreds of responses in my head, occasionally sending one, but more often saying nothing yet sulking about it for days.

The difference this time was I knew immediately what I was feeling was not about the email, this person, or the words she said.

This time I bypassed the anger and defensiveness and went right to the sadness and grief behind it. While part of me deeply felt the sadness another part of me stayed aside and witnessed, held the space, and assured the wounded part that this was an opportunity for growth, an opportunity to heal.

The next morning I had an opening in my schedule, so I gave myself a session. I treated myself as I would a client. I asked myself, “What was the earliest time you remember feeling this way?” I traced it back to a volume of similar experiences – all decades ago. Then I used EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques or “tapping”), which is a simple, yet powerfully effective healing technique that involves tapping on the meridian points while holding emotionally stressful scenarios in mind. I tapped on the feelings I was experiencing in the present and tapped on the wounded versions of myself in the past.

By the time I was done, I felt profoundly different. I no longer saw the email as something to be upset over, but as something to be grateful for. It was a wake-up call, a catalyst for growth. Because of it I was motivated to delve into my inner basement and clear out some old clutter I no longer have use for.

This is my path. It is not about expecting I will never be upset again, but rather about staying deeply present and curious when I do get triggered. We are always at choice point. When something shows up in your life, do you choose to unconsciously respond in the way you always have or make a choice to get to the roots behind the feelings, deeply process them, and show up differently? I choose the latter. In doing so, I know I not only heal old wounds, but clear the way for new and better things to show up!